Archive for August, 2009



We have fallen,
A fall
That we’re not proud of,
One not worth to boost about
Or wish for others,

It doesn’t matter if we fall anyway
It doesn’t matter if we spoil our garments,

The only thing that matters is,
We have to stand up,
Clean up and move on.

By Beneth,

August 28, 2009 at 9:29 AM 1 comment

It doesn’t matter, It matters

It doesn’t matter, It matters

It doesn’t matter where you are,
Where we are matters

It doesn’t matter what you do,
What you do with me matters

It doesn’t matter what others say,
What you say to me matters,

It doesn’t matter where we go,
It matters if you’re with me

By Beneth,

August 28, 2009 at 9:28 AM 1 comment


My sister sent me this through email and i chose to share this with you.
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Whether you are married or engaged or single, but preparing, the following thoughts penned by Relationship Coach and Pastoral counselor Don Bailey, can be a helpful challenge to consider:

“Do you believe your destiny is predetermined? Maybe you believe it is put in place by God (See: Jeremiah 29:11). I personally believe God has a perfect plan for us in all aspects of our life, but we have the power to mess up the plan as He allows our free will to be at work. I recently found a writing (author unknown) which I believe makes our part in defining our destiny clear.

Watch your thoughts,
They define your words.
Watch your words,
They define your actions.
Watch your actions,
They define your habits,
Watch your habits,
They define your character.
Watch your character,
It defines your destiny.

“Now, let’s apply this to our relationships.

“First, THOUGHTS… Do you think positively about your mate or date? Or do you find yourself thinking about their faults more than their strengths? Do you think about your relationship with commitment or as one that is on the brink of shattering with every upset? Proverbs 23:7 KJV says, ‘As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.’ That makes it pretty clear that the destiny of our relationships begins with our thoughts.

“Now, what about the WORDS we speak? Remember, they are defined by our thoughts. We have a choice of what we say and how we say it. Proverbs 15:1-2 NIV says, ‘A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.’ It is clear that our words have a dramatic impact on the actions of our mate or date. Managing our tongue to speak truth with a soft tone produces the best result. Seldom are we forced to use angry words to accomplish our purpose.

“What about your ACTIONS”? So often we’d like to blame them on someone else such as our date or mate or even ‘the devil made me do it.’ Just like with our words and thoughts, our actions are made through our choice. Unfortunately, we may not stop to make a choice, but we react based on our emotions.

“It will be much easier to make a choice about our actions if we are managing our thoughts and words. Psalm 1:1-2 gives us some insight as to how to do this. ‘Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night.’

“Well, we’re getting closer to our destiny. Now we need to consider our HABITS. They are defined by our actions and are a matter of conditioning. I believe I’ve heard that repeating an action twenty-one times causes it to become a habit. Some of us may be more resistant to change so it may take 30, or 40, or 50 times. The key is that we are making a choice to change our habits. Why? The reason is because it defines our character.

“What is CHARACTER? Well, it’s who you are. I’ve heard that it is what you do when no one is watching. It’s who we are when all of the masks are removed and our vulnerabilities, as well as our strengths are seen by our mate or date. Hopefully, it is the greatest factor on which they make a decision about whether you are worthy of a relationship with them. And let’s face it; it is defined by our thoughts, words, actions and our habits.

“Well, here we are at our DESTINY in relationships. What we want is to be happy, to be loving, to be committed, to be caring, to be empathetic, and to be emotionally healthy. The list goes on and on as we consider who we want to be to our self and others. We are forced to make choices which lead to a destiny in our relationships and the quality of our life.

“So, we reach the end; our destiny. It’s based on our choices and we are responsible for it. We can’t blame anyone else. But, now, we must go back to the beginning and start out again as life is constantly changing and we are presented with new choices. What a challenge it is! But now we know how we got to where we are and how to get to a better place in our future.”

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

It is our prayer that you will consider the message that Don Bailey gave us and choose this day and for the rest of your lives to live by the values and guidelines God has given us throughout the Bible. And that you will live out the words Joshua proclaimed to those around him:

“Now fear the LORD and serve him with all faithfulness… Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD” (from Joshua 24:14-15).

May God bless your marriage abundantly,

Cindy and Steve Wright
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August 27, 2009 at 8:06 AM 5 comments

My Sweet Aroma

My Sweet Aroma

A scent of you
makes my heart
yearn for you.

You’re so colorful,
and bright

I hardly resist the
urge to get to you,
and the desire to have you.

In winter you keep me worm
and in the night you
keep me comfort me,
And in the evening,
you give your self to me.

Oh my sweet coffee,
how I love you.

By Beneth
On 29/07/2009

August 26, 2009 at 2:40 PM Leave a comment

You Quench My Thirst

You Quench My Thirst

You bless me with freshness
in every bit of you.

With an ice cold kiss I receive you,
As you fill my mouth with bubbles

As I reach out for more and more,
I feel fresh, and thirst no more.

You are so sweet,
And cool,
As I hold you up in my hands.

You fill me with color,
That tells every one,
I enjoy every moment with you.

Sweet Mirinda,
You quench my thirst

By Beneth
On 16/07/2009

August 26, 2009 at 2:37 PM Leave a comment

I would like to love you.

I would like to love you.

You knew me first,
And you chose to love me,
Even in my weakness
You desired to love me

I would like to love you,
As much as you deserve,
So deep and so strong
So passionate, so close, and so pure

I would like to trust you,
With no questions or doubt
Follow your plan
Even when I don’t know what it is

I would like to love you,
Just like you deserve,

I would like to love you,
Feel you with in me,
For that is where you live,

I would like to love you,
Just like you love me
For it’s the only reward worth

By Beneth
On 16/07/2009

August 26, 2009 at 2:35 PM 1 comment

Let’s talk about sex as an act of worship!

Let’s talk about sex as an act of worship!

Am a single woman, and I can’t claim to know much about this, but I know about worship. Since it is described as an act of worship, of which I believe it is, I will say I know the basics about sex. So let me share with you some of the things that I think will affect your sex life.

What you listen to and believe,
Many people will tell you a lot about sex even when you were just a kid you can say that you had about it. But if you happen to believe them then, they will definitely affect you, especially if you don’t have what people told you as requirements. “The so called enhancements… ” Just like the devil keeps on telling you “Do you think God can forgive you?”, “After all that? No my friend, no my friend….” When you are worshiping God, You are likely to remember all people told you about sex, and how you don’t have what it takes… and so on. I believe you will feel abused than enjoy anything.

Some people tend to be like chemists, they like procedures. They are lots of books and videos about sex, (sold on every street vender’s “mudala” around town). If you copy and paste then you’re not likely to feel what you should feel. Have you ever looked at someone trying to worship like the pastor? Worship is just between you and God … actually the time we have done it best is when we don’t know how we did it; in spirit not with the mind. So what am I saying, copy and paste won’t lead you to what it’s should be, you we need to do is to listen to ourselves (body, soul, and spirit … the mind makes a decision and you communicate).

Practice or internship
“We need experience!” many people say. Have you realized we worship differently yet to the same God? So how do you think your 5yr of experience with x, and y will help you when you marry z? I know many don’t like being promoted after internship… And what if you get more than you want? Like a Junior, if not twins, or you end up calling your spouse; y, or x. Will you be able to explain that?

Demo versions
Of late many run to download a demo, or I should say they upload themselves for demos… have you heard of a friend saying “we need to stay to know how well we get along with each other!” Many assume after a trial, someone will buy a full version but what if they want to uninstall? Can you live with that pain in your heart? If I remember well, “God asks us not to let our hearts be trampled on…” and I will leave that at that.

We feel we should,
If you have never said, or heard someone say “I wish I was dead!” then you would not understand that not all things we wish for are good for us. The desire is normal and the feeling is so strong. But you don’t have to give in… However I think the biggest problem with us, we invoke the feeling, and when everything is too hot to cool down… we start asking God not to let us into trouble, Well someone else (devil) is always there asking you not to spoil the moment. Trust me fighting against yourself is the hardest war you can ever win… and losing will definitely haunt you.

I need to prove that I love him
Let me ask, “is that how he proved that he loves you?” Am sure not… but you love him anyway! “So how come you have to prove yourself to him in such a way?” Ok may be am being so insensitive, “How did you feel when he said it?” Did you feel he loves you more than yesterday? Did you feel you are about to loose him and you can’t imagine your life without him? Did you feel betrayed, lied to, or stupid to believe he loved you? Or you’re simply wondering how many times he has said that to other women? I can’t tell you what to do and you do it… but you don’t need to prove your love like that? Just run for your safety, you’re trading with a kiwani (duplicate of Mr. Right).

Failure Surrender,
To worship God in spirit as it should be, you have to surrender everything unto him, so I believe this too applies to sex as well. You can’t enjoy it when you have unfinished businesses between each other… or if you keep on holding on to the past experiences and so on.

You know many people can talk, talk and talk… and yet we go a head and do the wrong thing. But it’s so much better to avoid trouble than handling it, or nursing the wounds when the storm is gone. That is never a pleasure!

By Beneth,

Background: After bible study, listening to the marrieds and singles, talk about relationships, sex. i came to realize most of the books I have read about the relationships. They talk about sex as an act of worship. As I was sat in the taxi on my way to work the next morning… these words came to my mind and I just wrote them down, now I share with you.

August 24, 2009 at 1:44 PM 1 comment

Am with you,

Am with you,

I smell you in every breath I take,
I hear the sound of your foot steps, in ever move I make,
I when I fall I land on you.

I rise with you,
You rise with me,

You watch every move I make,
Every word I speak,
And each tear I shade,
I cry with you.

In the darkness,
You don’t close your eyes,
And you watch me sleep
As you control my breath

You’re such a friend,
A provider,
A guider,

Thank you Lord.

By Beneth,

August 24, 2009 at 1:23 PM Leave a comment

Hold my hand,

Hold my hand,

Standing on the bridge,
Looking around
Covered with fear,
Scared to cross

Hold my hand,
Please don’t leave me behind,
Neither do I want to cross with out you.

As the wind chase the sea,
My legs are shakily like jelly soap,

Yet standing besides you
Makes me strong and ready to cross,
But not without your hand in mine

Hold my hand,
I don’t want to fall,
And please don’t leave me.

Now that your hand is in mine,
The water is still,
And all fear is gone.

By Beneth,

August 24, 2009 at 1:22 PM Leave a comment

“Anything is better than nothing”, wait a minute.…

“Anything is better than nothing”, wait a minute.…

When ‘love’ finally comes into the picture after along time of waiting the best one can do is to say, ‘I do’, ‘of course I do’.

But just wait a minute, I said ‘love’ not love, so before you jump on the so-called last ferry at the port, take a minute and speak with yourself.

If you have ever bought a smaller shoe than your size then you will understand me perfectly.

At the time of buying you like its style, the label, and it’s affordable… but before you even reach home you will feel the loss with in you for buying that shoe. So is anything better than nothing? If you waited for another day or moved to another shop you, wouldn’t you get a fitting shoe?

Like wise taking the last ferry even when it’s going to the wrong direction is not a wise move. Am sure if you waited a little longer, you would get the right ferry.

Back to the ‘I do’, am sure you have waited for a long time actually a very long time, but don’t say I do, unless you actually do.

Am told for one to say I do proudly, these three must be in place.

– you should like the guy,
– Should love him,
– You should be in love with him.

Well I can’t explain the difference between the three, but I know they are those I like yet I don’t love, and they are those I love yet I’ am not in love with them.

And one more thing for two to be in love, you must love someone and that person must love you back.

So what is love? I ask, well am told to check the face of love in 1cor 13. And I will do the same for you, and find the truth yourself, from God’s own mouth.

Bottom line; am sure want to buy a fitting shoe, just like you want to marry a right Mr. Right. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life complaining to God of the wrong decision you made your self.

By Beneth,

August 20, 2009 at 9:04 AM 3 comments

The sculpture that I am,

The sculpture that I am,

Am made of glass,
My label reads,
“Hand with care”
Instructed by the manufacturer
God himself

Am fragile,
Yet strong
Easily broken,
Healed and forgiven
Handle me with care,

My heart
I trust with you
For the sake of love
Handle me with care

The sculpture
That I am
Is handled with care

By Beneth,

August 20, 2009 at 9:00 AM 3 comments

I lose my self…

I lose myself,
And I find myself in you.

I loose my way,
And you find me,
Yet questioned me not

In search of myself,
Am left alone,
Yet you draw closer

My feet are frozen,
I let go of myself,
I let go of my choices,
For yours lead

I let go of the rock,
For you to hold me

In you,
I stand
In you,
I belong

In you
I find myself,
In you
I find my all,

I lose myself,
To find myself in you

August 20, 2009 at 8:56 AM 3 comments

The oil of joy

The oil of joy

My eyes are red,
As my heart bleeds,
My voice is going low, and low,
And I feel all alone.

Raising my eyes,
I see you,
Like a bright light from horizon,
Reaching out for me,
With tenderness and love

Your arms comfort me,
Your voice confirms the truth,
“You’re not alone, and never will you”!

My tears are dry,
As my lips lighten with a smile,
Spreading to a brighter face,
I feel my heart restored.

It feels like a drop of oil,
Spreading around,
Covering every piece it can.

Am all covered,
I feel worm,
As your love and tenderness comfort me,
I feel a lot more than my words can explain,
You’re my oil,
My oil for joy,
That clears my pain,
Even in morning times.

Even when I don’t know it,
You’re always there for me,
Always there for every one,
As a drop of oil,
The oil for joy

By Beneth,
On 23/07/2009

August 13, 2009 at 7:33 AM 3 comments

My Petition

My Petition

To you my king,
I come,
For you’re full of mercy and grace
Nothing is to much to ask before your throne

To you, I bring my hearts desires,
To you, ask for peace, love,
Protection, knowledge and wisdom

You alone have provided all I have,
The owner of all I see and don’t see,
Your kingdom covers the earth and heaven,
To you I ask my king.
The giver of all

I bring a basket,
Just my heart alone in it,
And a will to serve you

My king, look at me one more time,
With grace and mercy,
My feet are slipping off the rock,
Give me strength to hold on,
And your hand to lift me up

Fill my basket,
According your mercy and grace,
According to your riches,
And may it never run dry

I’m not a faithful servant,
I may not deserve all that I ask of you
According to the law of the land,
But you are full of love,
And I believe in you

That is what I ask of you my king,
And here I stand waiting for your word,
For that is not too-much before your throne

By Beneth
on 12/08/2009

August 13, 2009 at 6:22 AM 3 comments

A love letter for every one

Hullo My love,

Am writing this with pain inside my heart, for loving you has been painful but I still love you just like I did the first time we met.

I know you love me, but at times I think, you think less of me; as though I can’t give you what you desire… you give me a look of ‘i-need-more’ yet you think I can’t give it to you. Other times you think am asking too much for you to offer.

I see you walk away, in search of your heart’s desire, and I say to myself ’why didn’t you ask me first?’, and it hurts me, for I wish to be the first person you consult about anything in your life.

I rise with jealous, every time you do that to me, I feel some one else has taken my place. I love you so much, but it hurts to think that am not enough, or worth something in your life… “Even my opinion is not good at all!” I say to myself with bitterness. MORE >>

August 4, 2009 at 7:57 AM 3 comments

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I don't like crowds. However when it gets to online, i just want to talk to every one.

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